Saturday, March 1, 2008


Here's what we like to do, whether we'll admit or not. My criteria for this is that we each do this every day and can't seem to stop doing it.
1. Dazee likes to suck her fingers and mouth objects.
2. I like to shop. (I don't actually have to buy)
3. Josh likes to think and research investments and returns.
4. My mom likes to clean.
5. Sadie likes to beg for chocolate, jelly beans, chips or lollipops. She also likes to ask for more if you give her one of anything (like food or toy).
So for the adults, we've each been doing it for at least 10 years if not longer! As for my mother, I feel bad that her interest doesn't seem very enjoyable.

Now we end on a commercial break of Daisy doing her favorite activity.

Thursday, February 28, 2008

Who's the boss?

So I'm sure you all know that I'm obsessed with blogs and that my favorite blog that started all of this fever is Beth's. In today's entry she made reference to Gaiam, a lifestyle purveyor of various goods, so of course I had to click on it. And I had to fall in love with everything on the website. I narrowed down one particular item that I'm especially interested in, a "stone hanger". Luckily, it's on sale, but it's still $40 for ONE! I mention this to my skin flint husband who immediately balked and started talking about how he could make one. So I sent him the picture and I think he realized that he probably can't make it without a special type of stone drill so he takes another approach to sabotage me:
"I don’t love them … they might be OK in a bathroom, but seems to me like it wouldn’t go with any of our d├ęcor … "
Normally I would retreat and go with whatever he suggests, as he seems to be right most of the time. But this time, I'm feeling a little downtrodden, having my parades rained on all the time, so I decide to take the bull by the horns:
"It would work in the bedroom which I just unilaterally decided should be in the eco theme. And I’m going to replace our sheets with organic or bamboo.
So anyway there're two points I'd like to make about this:
1. The first is that no matter how many times my husband talks in circles, doesn't make any sense or even outright lies to me, I forget that the reason behind it all is because he doesn't want to spend any money.
2. It's become unfortunately clear to me that he's the manager and I'm the employee. This is because I'm the one complaining all the time. If I actually felt empowered (like a manager), then I'd make decisions and move forward. Instead, I'm plagued by insecurity because I have to seek approval for all of my ideas.

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

Guess I won't be shaking his hands any time soon.

A co-worker of mine was suffering from the inevitable crisis: dry contact falls out of eye, no spare contact or solution in sight...What do you do? If you're like me, you wash your hands and slightly wet the contact, quickly stick in back in your eye and then pray for the best - all the while worrying about scary eye diseases and problems like corneal ulcers.
If you're like him, you promptly and nonchalantly stick it back into your eye.
When he told me that his eyes were really irritating him, then gave me the history on how he got himself in that spot; I gave him my stash of contacts solution that had expired. I'm glad that he didn't bat on eyelash about the expiration date having passed (this would make my husband clap) but I was shocked by his next actions. He took the contact out of his eye, added a few drops of solution and then placed it back into his eye. I chastised him for not washing his hands. You're supposed to wash your hands before you take out or put in contacts. At least that's what everyone tells you; I've always abided by that golden contact rule. This reminds me of another rebel; I remember a schoolmate who did all the three S's you're not supposed to do with certain kinds of contacts: sleep, shower, swim. She did all three. I can't be carefree about what medical conventional intelligentsia tell me. (A real tangent here, but A. and his dad believe that withdrawal is effective birth control. It's ineffective only if you don't know what you're doing, he brags. I think my friends C. and Dixie would agree with A. Josh and I find this so incredibly unbelieveably irresponsible and risky.)
Back to my dirty handed co-worker on why he didn't wash his hands: He asserted that it was what the solution was for. Ick! I told him I needed to blog about this and inflame him. He was OK with that.

We're abominable imperialists

I'm so humiliated and embarrassed by how Hawaii became a state. We overtook their government, an existing sovereignty that we had signed treaties with in the past, imprisoned their queen and forced her to abdicate. Then when the UN Charter recommended that we give "our" "citizens" a choice whether they wished to remain a protectorate, territory, become a state or gain independence - we only gave them one choice, become a state.
We are abominable and disgusting to do this to the spiritual Hawaiian people. Here's our official apology. And an interesting analysis by a law professor about how Hawaiians can re-establish their government and independence from the US.

I could use a little Aloha spirit

So my trip to Hawaii is more than two weeks over and I have a few things to show for it. Lots of photos which I'd like to make a coffee table book out of, fading memories of good times and the concept of "Aloha Spirit". I feel a little unworthy to attempt to describe the ineffable and grand nature of Aloha spirit. But here goes, it rules your heart, mind and soul to guide all that you think, do and feel. Anyone I've talked to who's been to Hawaii will say that Hawaiians are really nice or friendly. To me, to just say that they're nice cheapens their character. They are not regular nice, like the smiles or chit-chatty superficial friendliness of the Thais or happy Californians, but these folks go out of their way to do good. I would prefer to say they have supreme spiritual connectedness. Outsiders or visitors see generous actions, but it's much deeper than that; their minds, bodies and spirits are connected with Aloha and this spiritual connectedness guides all their actions.